Dear Steve and Shirley,
I'm a forty-year-old married woman, and my husband and I have a sister-friend who has been a major part of my life since I was seven years old. We did everything togetherโeven went to the same college and graduated at the same time.
When I got engaged, she got engaged. Our fiancรฉs didnโt get along, so my man would always take my bestieโs side when she was having an issue with her fiancรฉ. A few weeks after we got engaged, my man told me that my bestieโs man was cheating on her. I was shocked and hurt when I saw the video of her fiancรฉ asleep and naked at his side chickโs house.
My man and I decided not to tell her anything, but then my man got really upset with the dude and ended up telling my bestie about the cheating. She was so devastated. She stayed with us for two weeks and called off their engagement.
Now that we're married, sheโs part of our family. She travels with my husband and me, and she comes over for weekly movie nights at our house. She's dating again, and when she meets men, she brings them to meet us so we can pass judgment on them.
Lately, Iโve been noticing that my husband is more opinionated than usual, and none of the guys have been good enough for my bestie. Thatโs a red flag for me, so I jokingly asked him if heโd like to clone himself so my bestie could be with a man just like him. He got very irritated with me.
Iโve been wondering if something is going on between him and my bestie. As a test, I told him that weโre going on an anniversary tripโalone. He said it would be weird to leave my bestie out.
I asked him if we are in a three-way love affair. He laughed it off and said no, but does he really care about her feelings?